Ok, this one is not about programming, decided to talk about something else.
So, we all have an inner world, that world where we talk to ourselves, introverted people dwell within it a long time each day (extroverted people pass less time in their inner worlds than introverted people do).
As I was reading some books and articles I realized what some psychiatrist of our time called "The Little Voice", to put it simple the way our mind thinks is affected by several factors and those factors form a list (descending order), its called the B-T-F-A chain (Beliefs - Thoughts - Feelings - Actions). So it works like this, our beliefs shapes our thoughts and then those thoughts shapes our feelings which at the end shape the actions we take.
The little voice is that voice within our heads telling us positive or negative things and in this way shaping our thoughts (if you follow down the chain you will understand). So, this voice sometimes make us angry and explode as it sometimes make us understand others and forgive them.
But enough introduction, we all have had those days when we are feeling down, sometimes we do the silly thing and compare us to those who surround us "why did he/she fell in love with she/he instead of me?" (just an example, cound't find a better one.), as you probably know this events tends to turn the not so lucky person depressive and if we go by pop culture eat a lot of ice cream. But if you paid enough attention you may have caught that the little voice just filled our head with this thoughts and we acted accordingly.
So recently I decided to try an experiment I read in some book sometime ago, stop listening to the little voice, fill your head with positive thoughts, the world is not centered around you (when I was a kid I believe the world was like that), there is no cosmic power manipulating the universe in your favor and screwing everyone who is stupid enough to get in your way, you must face the fact that bad things happen but the thing is will you give in to all those negative thinking which only limits your potential?
Recently (about a year ago) I was depressed because one of my friends got to a good position in life, got a new job, got a lot of money and he seemed happy, so I compared myself to that person (why we always compare ourselves to someone? I don't get it.) and in my head I lost, so the voice began to work, "you not as good as X", "you don't deserve all those things", "X is better than you, and you thought you were the best of the two", etc. I never realized the struggles that other person had to deal with, never thought that person could have felt depressed too or maybe was in the same position I was in but in my friend's case with another individual.
Sometimes we only see the surface success and not the choices that lie beneath the success. Now I ask you, would you try shutting the little voice down and fill your head with positive thinking? You don't have to be somebody else, just fill yourself with positive thoughts and find the advantages of being you instead of only looking at the disadvantages. I have already began to shut the little voice inside my head, what you gonna do about your little voice?
